How many times have you said,
“Oh, if only I looked that her, then my life would be better!”
“Oh, if only I had that waist, those hips.” Or “If only I had her talent, charisma or intellect!”
Have you or someone you know ever said,
“I wish I was a little more….” And there’s nothing wrong with trying to improve some weak areas or seeking to be our best. These thoughts pass through all of our minds occasionally; but it is when this becomes the norm and you allow repeated slandering statements to pass through your lips, then there’s the issue.
Proverbs 18:21 reads,
“Death & life are in the power of the tongue,
and those who love it will eat its fruit.”
Our words have power. You can either choose to build up your worth with your words, or you can tear down your own self. You have two options.
I personally have had to learn this. Now I can say “I am beautiful!” And add to that smart, intelligent, talented & funny…. Without a blink.
LADIES! WE NEED TO STOP TEARING DOWN OURSELVES & START BUILDING OURSELVES UP!
It indeed may not be you tearing down yourself, but someone else and you are actually listening.
Ultimately, it is our enemy Satan who wants us to think & say negative “push down” things. He wants to tear down in every way because he knows your the Daugter of the King.
1 Peter 5:8 says,
“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour.” Keep in mind, He’s no lion. He simply roams like one.
I like the Amplified,
Be well balanced (temperate, sober of mind), be vigilant and cautious at all times; for that enemy of yours, the devil, roams around like a lion roaring [in fierce hunger], seeking someone to seize upon and devour.
He sows thoughts and seeds of accusation to suit his purpose.
Instead of saying, “I am not fit for the task.” Say: “I can do all things through Christ.”
Instead of dwelling on past choices & saying, “I wish my life was like hers.” OR “I wish my life was like theirs.”
GIRL VERSION: Samantha: “Laura, I wish I was like you. You are sooo popular!”
Laura: “I know.” (As she tosses her wavy curls back) “Sam, you will never be like me.”
Does this bring back Middle school memories.
<<<<<<<<< Girls Can Be Mean! >>>>>>>>>>>
And Instead of saying, “I will never loss this weight or be her size.” Say: “I wasn’t meant to be that small!”
Start building up yourself. Saying positive things! And stop trying to be someone else. You are a worthy vessel.
If you work so hard at being someone else, then you will miss the part of being you.
I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
Marvelous are Your works,
And that my soul knows very well.
– Psalm 139:14